Freedom to say ‘Yes’ and freedom to say ‘No’!
When our lives are so balanced that we can freely say ‘Yes’ or ‘No’, we find satisfaction in most of all that we do. Our boundaries are ‘in place’ and we have the right people in our lives, who respect us and treat us as they would want to be treated.
Trouble begins and a “red flag” should be ‘waving’ (your ‘gut’ or instinct will be warning you that something is not right), when you are made to feel that you cannot say ‘No’, when in the presence of a particular person. Should this happen to you – get away – they will try to control all that you do – little by little, until you have no choices left (and the scary part is that you won’t even realize it’s happening). Seek the advice of a trusted person in your life and if you feel you do not have one, then seek the wise and confidential counsel of a pastor.
Check in your area to see if there is a ‘Boundaries’ course taking place. It is an excellent and safe guide, to show you when it is right to say ‘Yes’ and when it is necessary to say ‘No’.
Visit your local library and look for ‘Boundaries’ by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend – read it and rely on its contents, to help you get your life and your choices back. Look for www.boundaries.com for more information.
We all have the right to choice and to our own opinions! If you allow someone to take that away from you, you’ll bury grudges and please, be aware – ‘That Feelings Buried Alive, Never Die’, (an excellent book by Karol K. Truman) – they fester until they explode into rage, or will quite literally destroy you, and you deserve better than that.
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